Art of Doing the Rules #3: Meet a Rules Princess!
Meet Kate Middleton of Bucklebury, a
middle-class girl and descendant of a coal-miner’s daughter who
captured Prince William's heart. It is the first time in 350
years that a commoner marries her prince charming after one of the
longest courtships in royal history. Over the course of eight
years, the British press dubbed Kate with the humiliating nickname of
“Waity Katie” when her failure to get a ring on her finger became
a national joke. But Kate had the last laugh when she walked
down the aisle with Prince William on April 29th.
It’s not easy to capture the heart of a regular Mr. Right, but Kate
captured a prince! She deserves a round of applause for being a
shining model Rules Girl by example and is now Rules Princess by
Top 10 Reasons Why Kate is a Rules
#1: Be a Creature Unlike Any Other – Kate is an intriguing,
beautiful and beguiling brunette. She is always stylish,
smiling, fit and feminine—the epitome of a CUAO.
Authors of The
Rules, Ellen Fein
and Sherrie Schneider, say it has nothing to do with being the
prettiest, richest or most successful woman, but it’s “all about
attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates her being
from head to toe.” When a classmate said Kate was lucky to be
dating William, she retorted, “He’s lucky to be going out with
#2: Don’t Talk to a Man First - When they first met, Kate
turned bright red and scuttled shyly away after meeting fellow
student known as William Wales at the University of St. Andrews in
Scotland. They were friends until eight months later, when
William reportedly paid £200 for front row seats to see Kate at a
charity fashion show. When he saw her on the catwalk modeling a
transparent dress over a bikini, he said to his friend, “Wow,
Don’t Be a Groupie, and Rules for Dating Celebrities or High
Profile Men: The spark at the fashion show led William to make his
first move at the after-show party. Instead of fawning all over
him like a groupie, Kate simply walked away. She had a
boyfriend at the time.
#3: Don’t Stare at Men or Talk Too Much - While other girls
stared and swooned at William, Kate treated him just like any other
student. She brushed passed him in the dining hall for weeks
before he plucked up the courage to ask her to join him for
breakfast. William liked that she was quieter than all the other
#20: Be Honest but Mysterious – Kate is naturally quiet,
discrete, composed and mysterious. Her nickname is “Her
#16: Don’t tell Him What to Do – When the couple split due to
rumors that Kate sought a commitment Will wasn’t ready to make,
instead of pleading with him, she simply gave him a taste of life
Up Even When You Don’t Feel Like It -Kate handled the break-up
royally, being fabulously cool when being seen at Will’s favorite
nightspots Boujis and Mahiki. She always looked immaculate and
like she was having fun. She never got drunk or lost control,
but made sure she always looked desirable.
The Rules Even When Things Are Slow – When they broke up, she
refused to take his calls and dated other men. She wore
miniskirts, got a tan and went out looking like Cindy Crawford’s
sexier kid sister. Within three months of their break-up,
William wanted her back.
Don’t Tell the Media About Your Love Life – Kate doesn’t talk
about William to the press or try to upstage him. When he
dumped her and she was terribly hurt, she kept calm and dignified.
She kept her mouth shut and didn’t go bleating to the media.
10- Closing the Deal –
Kate closed the deal under extremely extenuating circumstances.
First of all, they were very young when they met. They became friends
before being college sweethearts. The proposal could not come any
sooner because William was in the Royal Air Force and wanted to
complete his military training before they married. When the
media pressured him about marriage at the age of 22, he was adamant
about not getting married before 28 or 30. William proposed to Kate
and announced their engagement at 28.
He also had to groom Kate for the
job, because he did not want to repeat what happened to his mother,
who married very young and was not prepared for royal life.
William wanted be sure Kate could handle the pressures and that
marrying him would not ruin her life. And finally, he wanted to
give his mother’s ring to the woman he was going to spend the rest
of his life with and not divorce. All that time delaying the
engagement was never about William’s love for Kate, but about how
he was going to protect her so that she would not suffer his mother’s
This modern royal romance is a story
of friendship, then true love, companionship, compromise and
sacrifice. When William finally presented Kate with his
mother’s sapphire and diamond engagement ring by a sapphire blue
lake in Kenya, it was a declaration of love and his way of keeping
his mother’s memory close. It is Princess Diana who taught
her son how to love and protect his future wife.
Kate Middleton has played a brilliant
waiting game. She knew William was worth waiting for. If
Kate can wait eight years for her prince, then we can faithfully do
the Rules and wait a year or two for Mr. Right! It will only be
a matter of time before “Waity Katie,” who now prefers the regal
Catherine, will bear the modern royal standard and title as future
Queen of England.
"Citizen Kate" (April 16, 2011), "Playing by the
Rules" (April 27, 2011); excerpts from The
Making of a Royal Romance: William, Kate and Harry--A Look Behind the
Palace Walls by
Katie Nicholl; and special thanks to The
Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
Kim is available for private
consultations by phone at (512) 402-2648 or visit